Prep the cabbage: Remove any tough outer leaves.
Cut the cabbage into quarters, remove the core, and thinly slice. Keep the slices about 1/4-inch thick for a good crunch.
Get your aromatics ready: Slice or mince the garlic. If using a fresh chili, slice it thinly.
Keep everything within reach—stir-frying goes quickly.
Heat the pan: Set a large skillet or wok over medium-high heat. Add the neutral oil and let it get hot until it shimmers.
Sizzle the garlic: Add the garlic (and chili if using). Stir for 20–30 seconds until fragrant. Do not brown the garlic; it should just release its aroma.
Add the cabbage: Pile in the sliced cabbage.
It will look like a lot, but it wilts fast. Toss with tongs to coat in the oil and garlic.
Season and stir-fry: Sprinkle with a pinch of salt and black pepper. Stir-fry for 3–5 minutes, letting some edges char slightly for smoky flavor.
Keep the heat high and the cabbage moving.
Add the sauces: Pour in the soy sauce and vinegar. If using sugar or honey, add it now. Toss well and cook 1–2 more minutes until the cabbage is tender-crisp.
Finish with sesame oil: Turn off the heat and drizzle the sesame oil over the cabbage.
Toss again.
Taste and adjust: Add more soy sauce for salt, vinegar for brightness, or a pinch of sugar to round it out.
Garnish and serve: Top with green onions and sesame seeds if you like. Serve hot with rice, noodles, or alongside grilled chicken, fish, or tofu.